The expression: “I love you” has powerful effects in the whole being of the human person, but more especially in the inner self of the female folk. The reason is very simple; women are often carried away by what they HEAR. They just want to hear, among other expressions, that “They are loved.”
However, this same expression: “I love you” has often been an ENCODED form of its opposite expression: “I hate you.” Since it is an encoded expression, it has often been very difficult and in most cases impossible to be DECODED by our innocent female folk. This explains why we often hear these expressions: “He used me and dumped me”, “He took advantage of me”, “He broke my heart”, “He shattered my dreams”, “He cheated on me”, etc.
Dearest, how on earth would you expect anything different from the above heart-breaking expressions when a young man wakes up and tells his guys that he is going to “GET THIS ONE DOWN?” What other thing does he mean if not that he is going to lure you to his bed, have sex with you, dumps you and then goes out in search of another vulnerable person. So, to achieve his plans, he comes with GIFTS, telling you that “HE LOVES YOU.”
You may have either fallen into the above deception in the past or you may have seen your friend been a victim of it, but let me offer you the one and lasting DECODING key this time. Once he comes with his many gifts and sweet languages of “I love you, blablala…” Do not worry, try to get along with him; after all, nobody is an island and nobody is a beast such that he/she would want to stay alone without any friend. However, once he starts to make incessant demands for SEX, do not waste a minute to run for your life. Be reminded that pre-marital or extra-marital SEX is NEVER a PROOF of LOVE. Again, don’t you know that the person who truly loves you would want to preserve you till he gets MARRIED to you?
Please, do not allow yourself to fall into their traps again in the forthcoming VALENTINE DAY.
Remain blessed!
Rev. Fr. David Okolie
